f*** off time

Yikes. It has been several months since I last wrote a post. There have been many preoccupations in my life, all very important and appropriate.  I have enjoyed seeing clients, running workshops, doing admin work and contributing to discussions in the global arena of coaching. And I had spare time; I left room for gadget-free nights with my husband Karl and gathering with dear friends. And then I made sure I exercised enough, was eating right, getting enough sleep………….. Continue reading

what thoughts and feelings really are

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The brain is a remarkable organ.

The evolution of the human brain reveals itself in the layered structures that give rise to reflexive action, learning, memory, and eventually self awareness. These components help to explain our often conflicting responses to life events. Under stress we experience physiological changes and emotional reactions that can overpower cognitive reflection. Complicating things further, our brains have a negativity bias that predisposes us to give greater priority to threatening or frightening stimuli and downplay positive events. The good news is
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attention, intention

I am a very organized person. This is part of being a minimalist. I set goals and I look for outcomes.
Also a part of minimalism is mindfulness. If I am consciously curating what I need and don’t need during the day then I am paying attention.
For example, I am ‘listening’ to my body while sitting at the computer. I notice that my neck and shoulders are stiff. What is happening? Sometimes my posture slips. Sometimes it is stress. I recall that I have not taken a break. I need to stretch. I know that stretching in the morning allows me to feel comfortable at my desk.
My goal is to do this before I sit down each day. My intention is to honour my body, to care for me.

Declutter as if you are moving

My friends smile indulgently as I mention yet again that we have let go of several items in our home. “You won’t have anything left!” I do not mind the teasing as I know that my actions provide inspiration to get organized, or at least make for interesting conversation. (Readers share their stories in “What Our Stuff Means to Us“)

The interactions that give me pause however are with those who have to deal with the sudden ejection of household items, perhaps due to a change in circumstances that requires a downsize, or a parent’s home needs to be put on the market after they have passed on. Objects stir up emotions, hence why we ‘store and ignore’ (see my LinkedIn article last year called “Steps for Un-storing Your Possessions“). Continue reading