f*** off time

Yikes. It has been several months since I last wrote a post. There have been many preoccupations in my life, all very important and appropriate.  I have enjoyed seeing clients, running workshops, doing admin work and contributing to discussions in the global arena of coaching. And I had spare time; I left room for gadget-free nights with my husband Karl and gathering with dear friends. And then I made sure I exercised enough, was eating right, getting enough sleep………….. Continue reading

what thoughts and feelings really are

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The brain is a remarkable organ.

The evolution of the human brain reveals itself in the layered structures that give rise to reflexive action, learning, memory, and eventually self awareness. These components help to explain our often conflicting responses to life events. Under stress we experience physiological changes and emotional reactions that can overpower cognitive reflection. Complicating things further, our brains have a negativity bias that predisposes us to give greater priority to threatening or frightening stimuli and downplay positive events. The good news is
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attention, intention

I am a very organized person. This is part of being a minimalist. I set goals and I look for outcomes.
Also a part of minimalism is mindfulness. If I am consciously curating what I need and don’t need during the day then I am paying attention.
For example, I am ‘listening’ to my body while sitting at the computer. I notice that my neck and shoulders are stiff. What is happening? Sometimes my posture slips. Sometimes it is stress. I recall that I have not taken a break. I need to stretch. I know that stretching in the morning allows me to feel comfortable at my desk.
My goal is to do this before I sit down each day. My intention is to honour my body, to care for me.

a minimalist at christmas

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I like sparkly things.

The dance of gold and silver light, twinkling on a holiday tree is as mesmerizing as meditating on the flickering of candle flame. Contrast this mindful moment with the rush and expectations during the month of December. As a minimalist I practice letting go for the purpose of making room for what matters. I have very little interest in Christmas, preferring to share love and gratitude throughout the year at a comfortable pace. However, I admit I experienced a wistful feeling around decluttering our Christmas tree. Continue reading

the joy of letting go

Interesting how getting rid of so much seems to make life a lot busier! As my previous posts explain, my husband and I are downsizing by moving to a smaller suite next week. I know that once the mayhem is over, we will enjoy our efficient home in a spacious manner.

With a minimalist mindset, we have been paring down for years. However, with a reduction in square feet, even more items have to go. I have been selling and giving away many things on Kijiji and Bunz, as well as donating to charities. So many interesting people have walked through my life in the last couple of weeks and the conversations have been lovely. A mom needed Continue reading

downsizing

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I have learned that I can love to live anywhere.

Six years ago my beautiful partner and I moved in together. We choose this large two bedroom rental in an old, but renovated, three storey walk up. The top floor fire escape in the busy maples provides a fresh air perch, and the windows on three sides create sunset art on the walls. Over time, the property has revealed itself to be ‘a rotting lily’, with countless deficiencies. Along with the challenges of neighbourly proximity, there may be a lot to dislike about this place. But it is here we have grown together, falling more in love each year.

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home address

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As a child living on a rural property, I spent a lot of time outside, mostly alone I imagine, absorbing seasonal stories as I wandered from flowering fields to deep stands of sumac. The shifting sediment in the quarry sometimes exhumed its natural inhabitants, as the pioneer rock piles handed over evidence of a past life, chipped and pretty.

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